Why do I do this?
<To commiserate with others.
<To make others feel like something is less their fault. (Is that the same as commiserating?)
<To show I am trying to "repent" in an honest way for something I might have done or said wrong.
<To hear someone respond...I take a lot of interest in the way they respond. Makes me feel like I can tell if they are mad at me or not. -Mind reading anyone?
Any ways, I say it at least several times a day. To my kids, my husband, my "friends", acquaintances, etc.
I always have done this for as long as I can remember. I know it drives my husband nuts. But it has become a natural part of who I am. I just say it with out even thinking about saying it. It almost just comes out.
I really need to stop this. I know many see this as a sign of weakness in others. A sign that the person saying it is not as confident and composed as others. But how?
I'm thinking of getting a rubber band and putting it around my wrist and every time I go to say it I will snap the band. I know this is effective for treating other thoughts and actions. Making myself aware of my thought before it becomes my speech. Hum? But then I am afraid I will not say "I'm sorry!" when I should. I mean what kind of situations should one apologize for? Hurting someone's feelings? Spilling milk? Making a mistake? What kind of mistake?
I know this may be elemental to some but to me it turns into anxiety just thinking about it. Like I said, it is a part of me. I guess I should read up on this...any suggestions??